Letter 12 – Moving Forward

Dear Little One,

Oh, I miss you! I wish more than anything I could hug and kiss you right now! But if I could, I wouldn’t be writing this…

I want you to know that I still think of you. I haven’t given up on you yet, my little love. In fact, your dad and I have been talking a lot about IVF. I have been researching like crazy and trying to learn all I can about it. I’m not looking forward to all of the bills, shots, and doctor appointments, but if it brings us you, then it will all be worth it!

As it stands, we’re running into some issues with your dad’s job. I won’t go into the details, but it’s a real pain in the butt! We need that whole situation figured out so we can figure out the insurance coverage and how much, if anything, will be covered by his plan. Hopefully, we can have more answers by Thanksgiving!

I’m hoping to start consultations in February just because I like to be ahead of the game and know what to expect. I did an estimate tool online –which may or may not be super accurate– and it estimated our costs at almost $20,000 if everything ends up being out-of-pocket. EEK!! It’s hard not to let those things negatively impact me.

If everything goes according to schedule, we plan to start IVF in May. (God-willing!) That means we might be meeting you in March 2019! (Which sounds like an awfully long time to keep waiting!)

I know that God will make a way to get you to me… someway, somehow! I’m just trying to focus on that for the time-being.

The holidays are coming quickly and, of course, I ALWAYS think of you a lot this time of year. I can’t wait to make so many awesome memories with you, kiddo! We’re gonna have so much fun! I’m going to love you and love being your momma so much. I just know it.

Love,
MOM
XOXOX

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Letter 10 – Preparations & Planning

Dear Little One,

Oh, my goodness. This process has been so hard. Much more difficult than I ever could have expected. We’re just past the 34 month mark of this journey and I honestly don’t know how to process that it’s almost been 3 full years. For some people with similar struggles 3 years was just the beginning. I hope that’s not the case for us. I don’t know how well I could wait another 3 or 4 years for your arrival. I’m already so impatient!

Your dad and I have spoken a little more about how we plan to proceed in conceiving you. I think we’ve safely settled on In Vitro Fertilization (aka IVF). It’s a very expensive procedure so we most likely won’t be able to start that until next year, at the earliest. We’re aiming for late next summer; that way, if we’re successful, you’ll be born in the spring. I hope you’re born in April or May when it’s warm and lovely. Before the awful heat of summer kicks in. Then, again… maybe God will bring you before we go through IVF. He certainly can.

In any case, I’m trying to prepare for you in the only way I can right now. I’m trying to eat healthier and make some changes physically so that the pregnancy when/if it does come will be easier on my body. I want to make my body a safe place for you to grow and be well-care for. So far, I’ve given up all alcohol. I’ve added way more fruit and veggies and I’ve been working on cutting down on coffee and caffeine. (That’s the hardest part!)

I just want you to know that I haven’t forgotten about you. Your dad and I are working really hard to remodel this house we’re in so we can, hopefully, make a good profit when we sell. That’s going to be our IVF money. (Your dad’s idea!) You should see him. He is working so hard to make all of our dreams come true and to find a way to bring you to us. I love seeing how much he wants you too! We both are so ready to be parents.

I can hardly wait for you…

I love you,

MOM

Letter 8 – A Pause

Dear Little One,

It’s been a little while since my last letter so I wanted to take some time to catch you up.

The last couple of months have been very challenging for your dad and I individually. Your dad lost his job on January 25th due to his position being eliminated by the company employing him. It took him almost a month to start another job. He goes to work every day and it pays the bills, but he really doesn’t feel fulfilled there and it’s taking a toll on him. Still, he does it. I know it’s hard on him, but the man has more work ethic in his pinky than I do in my totality. That’s just how he is. I love and admire him for it. He really is a good man!

So, your dad has had it rough professionally and I’m not working at all. I haven’t worked since November. It’s hard and frustrating because I really expected to be a practicing counselor by now with at least a few consistent clients, but… God apparently had other plans. I’m still looking for work and praying that God opens a door somewhere soon!

As a result of our unstable financial situation, we’ve stopped actively trying to get pregnant. It is necessary right now, but also very challenging. Nothing has changed as far as I am concerned and I still want you as much as (if not more than!) before. I still think about you often.

I have started to consider the possibility that you may not be coming to us biologically. This is something I had never really thought much about before now. I still don’t know what God has up his sleeves, so to speak.

I just want you to know, my sweet child, that I haven’t given up on you and I don’t know that I ever could. My heart longs for the day I get to gaze upon your precious face and stare into your lovely eyes and hold you tightly in my arms. That is what I wait for. That expectation is what keeps me holding on through the most trying of times in this journey.

I love you.

XOXOX,
Mom